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Motherhood: The Real Talk

TRIGGER WARNING!

PLEASE READ THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION BELOW PRIOR TO WATCHING THIS (sorry, for yelling but it’s important).

This episode is raw and unplanned. It’s an honest real conversation between two mums and then me talking about a whole lot of postnatal topics from my experiences as a mother and as a friend of many mothers. It’s not censored and it may bring up issues for you or people you are watching it with. Most of these topics don’t get discussed often and sometimes not at all. Especially on social media and within friendship circles. They can bring up many issues for people and are often difficult to discuss let alone manage/seek help with.

Watching this episode may bring up issues for you, your partner, or for you as a couple.

Please read through the list below of the topics covered. If you think listening to information on any of these topics may put you in an unsafe situation with your partner or at all, please do not watch this with them.

  • Postnatal Depression
  • Suicidal Thoughts/Ideation
  • Domestic Violence
  • Financial Abuse
  • Relationship Issues
  • Sleep Deprivation
  • Co-Sleeping

If you are experiencing any mental health or family abuse (spiritual, emotional. sexual, financial or physical) please seek assistance from qualified health experts. Below is a list of contacts and resources for you under the relevant headings. If you are unsafe or in immediate danger, please call 000 (if in Australia, if you aren’t please call your emergency number). Please know that you do not have to suffer in silence and help is available.

On my blog and social media pages, I will be adding several posts on these topics and others with resources and information to help you be informed and prepared.

Please note: many of these resources are specific to Australia. Please discuss with your midwife, obstetrician, GP or do a google search for country-specific helplines if you are not living in Australia.

Perinatal Anxiety and Depression

The term ‘perinatal’ refers to the period from the conception of a child through to the first year after birth.

‘Antenatal’ refers to the pregnancy period. ‘Postnatal’ refers to the first year after birth.

Up to one in five expecting or new mothers and one in ten expecting or new fathers will experience perinatal anxiety or depression. The illness affects around 100,000 families across Australia every year.

Left untreated, it can have a devastating impact on parents, partners, baby and the rest of the family. In the worst cases, lives can even be put at risk.

Being pregnant or becoming a new parent can be both exciting and challenging. Having a degree of trouble adjusting to the changes that come with impending parenthood or the arrival of a new baby is natural.

Feeling a little ‘teary’, anxious or irritable for a few days in the weeks after the birth – often referred to as the ‘baby blues’ – is common, however, when a low mood or feelings of anxiousness start to cause concerns or stop an expecting or new parent from functioning normally for more than two weeks, they may be experiencing perinatal anxiety or depression.

The above information has been taken from the PANDA website.

https://www.panda.org.au/

This website is filled with really great information. It also includes mental health checklists for

  • expecting mums
  • expecting dads/non-birth parents
  • new mums
  • new dads/non-birth parents
  • partners/carers

You recieve a summary of your results and information about how to get support if needed. The website also has a ‘quick exit’ button.

PANDA’s National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline is free. Please call it if you or your partner are experiencing or think you may be experiencing perinatal depression and/or anxiety – 1300 726 306 9am – 7.30pm Mon – Fri (AEST/AEDT)

If you are a health professional there are resources and information for you too.

Beyond Blue – www.beyondblue.org.au is another amazing resource that you can access and it has a helpline.

Lifeline – is a 24 hour crisis support and suicide prevention hotline, text line and online chat.

Lifeline phone number – 13 11 14

Website – https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Domestic Violence

If you are in immediate danger please call 000 (in Australia)

The White Ribbon Webpage has a list of Domestic Violence Hotlines, websites, and apps for all people. It also has a HIDE PAGE option or you can just press escape and it will close. Please access it if you are a victim of domestic violence or would like to know more information on this issue.

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/find-help/domestic-violence-hotlines/